Eldercare Mediation and Family Conflict

Eldercare Mediation

Ten thousand Americans reach the age 67 every day. This aging population requires better tools to manage the numerous needs and challenges of the elderly and the families who care for them. Eldercare Mediation is one of these emerging tools.

Eldercare Mediation is an opportunity for the elder person, family members, and caregivers to discuss challenging issues with the guidance of a professional mediator and create mutually-satisfying solutions that benefit all concerned.

Mediation is an opportunity to:

• Express feelings and pent-up emotions and concerns
• Share ideas and thoughts in a safe space
• Connect and/or re-connect with people who affect your life
• Discover and create win-win solutions to on-going issues

The benefits of Eldercare Mediation include:

• Involving the elder person at a time when may feel they no longer have choices or input regarding their life
• Defining and maybe improving family relationships
• Focusing on the future;  identifying and defining specific goals and priorities
• Opening communication channels
• Providing a forum where people can be heard and gain mutual understanding
• Planning for crises before they happen

Eldercare Mediation discusses emotional, financial, legal, and medical issues including:

• Denial related to change
• Loss, grief, depression, and anger
• Dignity and independence
• Generational biases
• Day-to-day living including housing, transportation, and finances
• Caregiving costs, responsibilities, schedules, and challenges
• Issues with medications, cognitive and physical changes, health-care providers
• End-of-Life issues/Living Wills
• Powers of Attorney, and Guardianships
• Inheritance, wills, trusts and estates
• Maintenance of cars and homes
• Family dynamics

Family Conflict

Family conflict can occur at any time and is not limited to late-in-life issues involving an elderly family member. Mediation can benefit challenged families who are having trouble communicating yet desire positive inter-personal relationships.

Family Conflict Mediation provides a forum for facilitated communication guided by a trained mediator who creates an environment that encourages amicable discourse rather than adversity.

The cornerstones of mediation – neutrality, confidentiality and self-determination – allow family members to speak in a safe space that can empower participants to acknowledge and mend past grievances and move forward to a more satisfying future. Here is is two people have benefited from Donner Mediation and Coaching sessions:

My siblings and I were having a lot of problems within our family. There was a lot of tension and most of the issues involved our stepmother. Through mediation, we began to talk things through and we began to gain a greater understanding of each other’s ideas. We left the session with a written, mutually agreed-upon plan to guide everyone’s behavior and expectations as we move forward toward the future.
Ronald G.
Roswell, Georgia

My sister and I were barely speaking. We had been caring for our ailing mother for three years and the tensions between us were escalating. Participating in mediation allowed us to finally communicate about care and end-of-life issues. As a mediator, JoAnne helped us express our thoughts in clear, non-confrontational ways and also helped us to see the other person’s point of view. Mediation was an invaluable experience for us.
Michelle T.
Vinings, Georgia